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The dysfunction often shows up the clearest in their relationships with others.A narcissistic mother’s marriage (worse if she doesn’t have a husband) often suffers when unhealthy triangles dominate her love-life.Can you tell there is an underlying emotional maybe physical competition going on in this message? When you are truly married you are committed 100% to another woman, your wife/lover.You’ve left one woman (mom) to fully commit to another (wife/lover).Number one, she has little or nothing to give, and number two, you (wife) are the competitor (in her mind at least) for her son’s adoration and affections.Number three, unfortunately, you can’t really make up for past love-life disappointment by getting an adult person to ‘parent’ you.There’s a certain selfish, perhaps self-indulgent quality to this.She is really only thinking of her own needs and not the needs of her son or her daughter-in-law for that matter.
The son’s efforts to ‘make peace’ between his wife and his mother while walking the ‘line’ between them is quite demanding.You can get married, but that doesn’t mean you belong to anyone but ME.Now you have a dependent son and a narcissistic mother. This co-dependent arrangement when it hits adulthood is bound to create dysfunction in both.This triangle indicates that there are two women vying for one man. Conflicts increase over time and allegiances are strained.
Of course this kind of emotional arrangement can get pretty complicated when her son’s wife is trying to get her mother-in-law’s ‘love.’ A lot of people are psychologically immature when they get married and try to compensate for what they didn’t get in childhood (love) now from their spouse’s family. Problem is, it’s bound to be disappointing when your mother-in-law is narcissistic.What they don’t realize is, they have a right to a life of their own.